This has taken me a little while to write… we’ve been married for 119 days (nearly 4 months!!) but here it is…
The Morning & Getting Ready
I remember thinking the morning was going to go on for ages, which may not be a feeling that you’d get if your ceremony time is early. With the ceremony time being at 3pm, but having woke at 6:30-7am ish my Bridesmaid Donna and I had a long time to slowly get ready. We got showered and dressed and went for breakfast soon after waking. After breakfast we took a look in the ceremony and reception rooms to ensure everything was still okay in both of the rooms as we’d set everything up decorations wise the night before. The only things we hadn’t set up the night before was the floral pedestals and the wedding cake as these were going to be delivered by the suppliers at some point during the morning. The floral pedestals were in the ceremony room and looked fantastic, but the wedding cake hadn’t yet been delivered into the reception room.
As we felt at a bit of a loss in what exactly to do we took a walk around the venue where we got offered a free glass of champagne we then took back to our room. It was at this point I realised I wasn’t sure what time my sister, parents, our photographer or my hairdresser were going to arrive.
By the time my sister, parents, hairdresser and Dees’ daughter Hollie (who was doing our make-up for us) had arrived, everything went from being calm and seeming like we had forever, to being very hectic and seeming like there wasn’t much time.
I thought I wanted to have a bustling busy room filled with my hairdresser Katie, photographer, MUA, BMs and my Mum, but actually I found myself getting stressed out by the noise and commotion all those people were creating in the room, especially as I was having my hair done at the time, and having my hair done has always been a source of anxiety for me.
At one point I strongly encouraged my sister to take Dees’ daughters to go check out the rooms so they could see the decorations before everyone else. Once they had left the room I was able to calm the nerves that had been building inside and it allowed my hairdresser to finish my hair without any distractions.
Once my hair was done everyone came back into the room and I was back to enjoying having everyone there. Katie was moving on to do Trudy and my Mums hair while Hollie started on my make up.
At one point the hotel staff asked if we could change rooms, but thankfully Trudy as the fabulous bridesmaid she was for me soon sorted that out so we could stay in the room until everyone was ready.
The ‘getting ready’ section of the day was the single longest section of the whole day as you could say it lasted from 7am to 2pm.
My emotions were out for all to see from the moment my Dad came to collect me from the getting ready room to the moment we had signed the register.
I was tearing up when I saw my Dads reaction to seeing me in my wedding dress, I was nervous as anything during the pre-ceremony interview with the Registrars, I couldn’t control my nerves as Dad and I stood waiting for our moment to walk down the isle, and I can’t count how many tissues Dad passed me to dab my tears as Steven and I gave our vows to each other.
After Ceremony – The Photo Section of the Day
I actually really enjoyed greeting each guest and thanking them for coming. We had 48 guests to the day, so it wasn’t a large group of people at all, mostly family with a select few very close friends.
I did have a ‘damsel in distress’ moment when I got very hot, choked on a sip of champagne and started coughing. I often struggle to stop myself coughing after choking on a liquid so I quickly exited the room but was followed by a family member who was concerned due to not knowing if I was choking or crying. I made my way back to The Greens Room to stand by the open doors to cool down. Soon Steven and Natalie (our photographer) joined me and we decided to stat taking pictures.
Pudding Choices: Vanilla Cheesecake or Chocolate Tart
Tea & Sparklers
We both agreed we wouldn’t drink during the reception as neither of us wanted to be drunk on the wedding day or hungover the day after. Despite the fact we weren’t drinking I was taken aback by how few people offered to buy either of us a drink. As the Bride I didn’t have any money on me, so I just kept asking for a glass of water from the bar, or putting some J2O’s on a tab for the Husband and I.
The main highlights of the evening were cutting the cake, our first dance to James Arthur – Say You Won’t Let Go and the bacon/sausage/egg rolls and cake being served as well as general making shapes on the dance floor.
After the majority of guests had left and the DJ had played his last song we rounded off the evening sat up on the balcony again enjoying a last drink and chat before sneaking off to our Bridal Suite.
The husband and I opened our cards and presents that had been put in our room for us earlier, whilst enjoying a glass of champagne before hitting the hay. That night was one of the best nights sleep we’d ever had!
Everyone told me the day goes by really quickly, and I was trying to do everything I could on the day to savour the moments and to stop it going so quickly, but it still went crazy quick. It felt like such a whirlwind and the day after I couldn’t believe it was over. Experiencing that for myself has strengthened my resolve to be an advocate for people not getting themselves into debt for their wedding day.