In previous posts I have advised that the budget wedding planning couple can cross favours off of their list to help save money. Favour bags are definitely something unnecessary and guests definitely will not notice if they aren’t there. I still, and always will stand by this. However, if you do decide to include favour into your wedding breakfast, do not spend a lot of money on them. Even at my wedding, a couple were left on the tables at the end of the evening; and had we spent a lot of money on them we would have been gutted.
Coming home from work on Thursday to see the package I’d been eagerly awaiting lying on the welcome mat made me so giddy. The Guest book I had ordered from Ahoy Designs came quicker than I thought it would. I was planning on creating a video of me opening the package to share with you but I am very sorry to say that excitement got the better of me so there isn’t a video 😦
if you’ve seen the guest books Rachael at Ahoy Designs creates you’d know why!
Buxton based Rachael single-handedly runs Ahoy Designs hand crafting each sumptuous Guest Book to suit your wedding colours. As many of you know the colours the H2B and I have chosen for our October 2016 wedding are blue and gold so I requested the ribbon colour to be gold.
On the Jiffy bag was a “FRAGILE handle with care” label
The box inside the Jiffy bag is wrapped in tissue paper
when I peeled back (who I am kidding – Ripped off) the tissue paper I found the book inside a PVC box.
Upon opening the box I found my guest book, a pen and a personalised note from Rachael
In my opinion the delivery couldn’t have been packaged better – I’m a sucker for tissue paper! 😀
The Guest Book
The ribbon is iridescent and seems to almost sparkle under the light. I couldn’t help but run my fingers over the different textures from the ribbons to the lace onto the card. It is obvious from the cushioned feel of the book to the soft n silkiness of the materials that Rachael pays close attention to detail and sources her materials from quality suppliers.
I’ve left this up to the H2B: “I love the textures and the handmade feel. Everything from the book itself to the note just make it all feel personalised to a T. Everything about opening gave a real sense of occasion that even made me feel excited.”
So there you have it, even my caveman of a H2B had only good things to say, which is why I wanted to share with you this Spot Light on Rachael and her Ahoy Designs business.
What inspired you to start Ahoy Designs?
I made my own guestbook for my wedding back in August 2014. I’ve always been crafty and loved making something we used on our special day. I got so many compliments on the guest book from wedding guests that I started making them for my friends and family . In June 2015 I took the plunge and started Ahoy Designs as a business.
How do you juggle working full time in web design and running Ahoy Designs?
It’s been a hard learning curve to be honest. I burnt myself out in September – I’d go home after being busy in my day job and work on Ahoy until 10-11pm at night. I didn’t realize I was burning myself out, because I love what I do and didn’t mind working late each night. I’ve now learnt to listen to my body and have a couple of nights a week off which means I can make more time for my Husband.
Saturday afternoon I ordered two Wedding organisers. I’m not sure why I thought I needed two. Both had really good reviews and seemed as though they both offered different things. I wasn’t going to buy a wedding organiser at all because I thought it an unnecessary expense when there are mobile planning apps and Excel.
But the truth of the matter is I LIKE to WRITE things down, so it was only a matter of time before I succumbed to buying one.
I bought them on Saturday afternoon and they were delivered this morning – Good ol’ Amazon!
Busy B Wedding To Dos
Busy B Wedding Planner
I’ll start filling in details and using them over the coming weeks and will write a short review on them soon.
Going all white can seem scary, but as long as you use a mix of different textures and fabrics your wedding will look expensively elegant for a very small amount without any stresses that come with a mixed colour theme. In this post I would like to show you some ways you can achieve an all white wedding without it costing the earth.
Fairy lights can be bought from pretty much anywhere, but bare in mind that you will need to select battery operated fairy lights for use throughout your venue. The three orbs and the rose garland are from NotOnThehighstreet.com for £26 and £22 respectively. The hanging birdcage is £12 from Matalans home range, which would look lovely holding either real tea light candles or LED tea lights if your venue has restrictions on naked flames.
The number of places where you can get wedding invitations from is endless, from high street card shops or print shops to a never ending list of websites. BHS sell a range of wedding stationary that can be personalised, such as their Damask wedding invitation design which starts at £2.08 each.
basicinvite.com allows you to design your own invites for as little as 59p each. As you change the design of your invite, using the extensive array of colour options, you can see instant previews and a sample can be ordered before you commit to your purchase. For simple designs upgrading to their shimmer paper would finish your invites off with a truly professional feel for just pence.
Hobby Craft sell all manner of ready made wedding decorations as well as all the supplies you could need to create your own wedding stationary and décor such as these butterfly place cards. Hobby Craft do tend to come up more expensive than other suppliers, so make sure you check around to get the best price. I’m a big fan of looking on eBay or wedding forums for the same products at lowers prices.
Both of the Bridesmaid dresses pictured on my previous post, ‘It’ll be All White on the Day’ are from ASOS. Both are a steal at less than half the price of BM dresses from bridal shops; the one shoulder dress is currently at £75.00 and the lace bardot neckline dress is currently £67.00. Light grey or soft sand coloured suits can be picked up from your favourite mens clothing shop along with crisp white shirts and a white tie with an embroidered pattern. Finding white bridesmaids dresses and pale suits for the groomsmen will be easiest in Spring so plan your shopping trip carefully. Remember even though you are styling your wedding day with an all white theme, that doesn’t mean you can’t add a touch of sparkle or splash of metallic with the BM shoes and accessories.
White Wedding Cake
High street food shops such as M&S and Waitrose do premium wedding cakes perfect for an all white wedding theme at ccompetitive prices, such as this three tier from M&S for just £249.
A cheaper option would be to pick up three plain iced cakes from your chosen supermarket, position on top of each other or use pillars to separate each layer before decorating.
If you do decide to commission someone to make your cake for you, ensure you get a few different quotes and check their reviews. Wedding fairs and wedding twitter chats are both great ways to find bakers.
If in doubt follow my golden rules:
Shop on the high street
Don’t forget about eBay and Amazon
Join wedding forums and facebook groups for the chance to buy from other brides/newly-weds
up-scale cheaper products by customising them yourself.
It has long been my observation that those who put a lot of focus on the wedding day are more likely to have a short marriage.
Usually the 12-24 months from engagement to the wedding day is a very exciting time. There are magazines to be read, suppliers to be booked and copious amounts of shopping to me done; not to mention lots of little details to be decided upon. Wedding planning creates a whirlwind of exhilaration that is hard to sustain once the dress has been dry cleaned and the thank you cards have been delivered.
I urge couples to bear in mind that married life will be exactly the same as your pre-engagement life was plus extra bling. Similar to post-natal depression I have seen many a woman show signs of post-wedding depression. Usually post-wedding depression kicks in about 3 months after the wedding. 3 months into martial life the dress has been dry cleaned, the photographer has come back with your pictures, thank you cards have been sent and no one wants to talk about the wedding with you anymore. Your friends are no longer on permanent stand-by to avert any wedding related crisis and it all feels lackluster and flat. It is perfectly normal and OK to put great effort and time into planning your wedding day, but remember that life will not instantly change when your marital status does.
For many couples in the midst of planning an expensive celebration date nights falls to the way-side as every weekend is taken up with browsing, shopping and tasting, meaning a couple can feel distanced from each other as planning progresses. The engagement stage is one of the most-important times in a couples life to carry-on dating each other. If the cost allocated to the wedding far exceeds an affordable saving level then finances wont be the only thing to suffer. Stress will get the better of you at some stage during the planning; and it is at this time when you really need to be connected with your partner and remember why you fell in love with them in the first place. It is my advice to budget your wedding planning schedule so that you still have the ability to “date” each other once a month.
So is this observation of mine true? Can the cost of a wedding have an impact on the longevity of a marriage?
In September 2014 a study on the correlation between wedding expenses and marriage duration was completed by two Economics professors at Emory University. The study was done on more than 3,000 people (an admittedly small study group) asking them about their first marriage. Some of the results of the study are in bullet below:
- Men who spent between $2,000 and $4,000 on an engagement ring were 1.3 times more likely to divorce than those who spent between $500 and $2,000 (USD)
- Those who spent more than $20,000 on their wedding day were 3.5 time more likely to divorce than those who spent between $5,000 and $10,000
- Those who spent less on their wedding were 82-93% less likely to experience wedding-debt related stress post wedding.
Given the fact the study size was small, and the write up is short with few definite conclusions the validity of the study is questionable at best. It would be good for a study to be done on a much larger group, spread across more than one developed country. The best platforms to complete these surveys are the ones who wouldn’t want to do so because the results could be negative towards their business model.
With the above aside, the study does show a correlation between lower wedding expenditure and longevity of marriage.
So you’ve never had a better reason to cut that wedding budget down and knock off those unnecessary wedding expenses off the list. Worried about what your friends and family will think of your parred back nuptials? Just tell them it is all for the good of your resulting marriage.
Cheaper Weddings = Better Marriages
Here are the Hen Party Bags I ordered from ‘vintage*dotty’ on eBay.
The personalisation service they offer is second to none. For only £2.95 per bag you choose the colour of the bag, the design and information on the label, the colour of the tissue paper inside the bags and you choose 8 items out of a large list to fill the bags with. The 8 bag fillers I decided upon are: Willy Sucking Straw; Mini Survival Kit; Scavenger Hunt Game Sheet; Strip of 10 Diamanté Face Jewels; Love Heart Sweets; Red Juicy Lip Sweets; Neon Pink Bracelet and Stiletto Fashion Foot Cushions.
Sitting out in the sun this afternoon to assemble the bags was very enjoyable.
Are you a shoe fanatic? Are you struggling to find the perfect shoes for your wedding day? Do you like personalisation?
If you are budgeting a max of £150 for your bridal shoes then a website you should most definitely visit is laceandlove.co.uk who create custom made shoes to your own design.
You can either provide your own shoes to Lace&Love or you can tell them what type of shoe you would like and they will source the shoe for you. Once the shoes have been chosen you then discuss what colour, materials and items you want to include in the design.
From this brief, I’ll create a rough design onto the shoes and send some pictures. At that stage, we can tweak anything. Once the design is approved by you, I fix it all permanently before coating them with a water and stain repellent. They are then bagged and boxed ready to send on their way!
The following pictures are taken from the website of Lace&Love and are linked to the website.
I am seriously considering buying a pair of shoes I like and sending them to Lace&Love to have them personalised. Some of the shoes I would take inspiration from out of their portfolio are:
I’d have the vows on the back of the shoe as permanent reminder of the promises we are making to each other.
The time on the clock face could be set and frozen at the time of the ceremony and the other charms would be personal to the H2B and I. For us it would be a car charm and a little acorn charm maybe.
The lace put on the shoe could be off cuts from my wedding dress.
Lace&Love can help you keep lost loved ones close to you as you walk down the isle. I can’t think of a more special way to incorporate your loved ones who sadly can’t be with you.