Post Wedding Change


Post Wedding Hair Change

Over the past 10 years I’ve had blonde highlights streaked through my hair, a thick slab of red, I’ve had some of my hair dyed blue. I’ve gone pretty close to black and had my hair dip dyed in 2012. Ignoring the colour though I’ve pretty much had the same hair style for over 10 years. Sometimes I had it all one length, and other times I’ve had layers cut in, but for the past 10 years my hair has been around a certain length – somewhere between middle of the shoulder blade and bra strap.


Up until recently if anyone asked I always said I was growing it. I wanted to see how long I could grow it. The truth is, I couldn’t grow it anywhere near as long as I’d like. I imagined my hair being like Taylor Swift’s hair in 2010; but the longer it got the more of an annoyance it became. Like many brides I wanted to keep it long for the wedding, so there was no way I was contemplating having the chop until after my wedding at least.

The longer my hair got the more I found myself just putting it up in a messy bun, rather than having it down because when it was down it had a tendency to fall in front of my face, in a cousin-it fashion any time I tilted my head even slightly downwards.

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#WeddingDayChat


#WeddingDayChat

If you don’t know about the  chat that is on Wednesday evening then you either don’t have Twitter or have been living under a rock! #Weddinghour is an hour long Twitter chat every Wednesday 9pm-10pm. 

But there used to be other wedding chat hours too. There was #BrideHour every Thursday evening 8pm-9pm and #weddingoclock on Sunday evening 9pm-10pm.  It would seem that both the and chats have completely stopped; you try looking at the tweet results for those hashtags now and all you’ll see is the occasional tumbleweed. 

But who wants to have only one day a week where they can engage in a Twitter chat about everything wedding? I know I don’t! 

and I have worked together to start a new chat hour for all things weddings! will be every Sunday 8pm-9pm and launches this Sunday! 

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Writing Personal Wedding Vows


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It probably isn’t a surprise to you that the ceremony IS THE WEDDING in my eyes. Without the ceremony it wouldn’t be a wedding – it’d just be an expensive party. I’ve done a number of posts on how you can personalise your ceremony such as this one from 2015 and this one from 2012, and I always mention how I well up listening to a couple say their vows to each other.

The husband and I including personal vows in our ceremony was something I wasn’t going to negotiate on. In the UK you have to say certain vows to make the marriage legal, although you get to choose which legal vows you say from a pack the registry office/church give you. These vows can be incredibly beautiful on their own, but I wanted to write extra vows ourselves so we could say our own personal promises to each other.

What I did not realise, is how difficult writing your own vows can be. Every time I sat to think what I wanted to promise him my mind went blank. After quite a bit of time though we both manged it, and I’m incredibly proud of the vows we gave each other.

Here are my tips on how to go about writing your own vows:

  • Before you go anywhere near a search engine, sit and think about what makes your relationship unique, and what silly little things are features of yourself, your partner and your relationship. Note these things down.
  • Note down little things he does for you that you’re thankful for.
  • Jot down what sort of things you’d like to promise your loved one.
  • When taking notes of all these things don’t worry about wording it in any set way, and don’t worry about if the things you’re jotting down are things you definitely want to include in your final wedding vows. This is your initial ideas stage.

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1st Valentines as Man & Wife


Today is the Husband and I’s first Valentines day since getting hitched; and it’s our 5th since we started our relationship.

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On the lead up to our first Valentines I made the mistake of saying I didn’t want him to get me anything cheesy (think massive teddies, roses, chocolates etc) which he took to mean, don’t get me anything at all. Come Valentines Day I got him a card and personal dog tags and some other bits while I got nothing in return; not even a card. I was a bit surprised as my thinking at the time was he would think outside the box and get me something a bit different to normal. I was wrong. All her heard was “don’t get me anything“.

The next year I’d learnt from my mistake the previous year; I told him I would like him to buy me something but just not a massive teddy as I’ve no where to put it.

Since then we’ve had years where we’ve simply bought each other a card and eaten an M&S dine in 2 for £10 meal, and one year where we actually had dinner out together on Valentines day.

It’s not that we’ve been unable to afford to celebrate Valentines day or that either of us in anti-Valentines. It’s just that most years neither of us is overly fussed about celebrating the day.

Today we both went to work, giving each other a kiss goodbye and this evening I cooked us dinner and we’ve relaxed in front of the TV. Not a card, a bar a chocolate or a flower exchanged. This is the first Valentines day where we’ve not done anything at all, where neither of us has bought anything for the other.

I’m not sad, not angry, I’m not jealous of the women who received flowers at work today and I’m not being a martyr. It’s not because we’re unhappy together, because we’re boring or due to us being skint. We both love a celebration, and we aren’t grumpily saying we’re not celebrating it because it’s hallmark day, or because it is ‘forced shows of affection’.

Simply, last week, I said, “next week is Valentines day. Do you want to celebrate it?”, he shrugged, and I said I wasn’t bothered about it, so we’ve both not done anything.

Having said that we are going out for dinner soon, most likely next weekend as this weekend we’re helping my sister move house… so we’ll be treating that as our ‘Valentines day’.

How have you spent your day? Do you celebrate it in a big way or do you not tend to bother either?

Post Wedding Post


This has taken me a little while to write… we’ve been married for 119 days (nearly 4 months!!) but here it is…
It felt really odd to me when we got to the point where it was just 1 week to go. It didn’t feel real. After months and months of planning it didn’t seem real that the day could actually come round.

The Morning & Getting Ready

Room: An Executive Suite

I remember thinking the morning was going to go on for ages, which may not be a feeling that you’d get if your ceremony time is early. With the ceremony time being at 3pm, but having woke at 6:30-7am ish my Bridesmaid Donna and I had a long time to slowly get ready. We got showered and dressed and went for breakfast soon after waking. After breakfast we took a look in the ceremony and reception rooms to ensure everything was still okay in both of the rooms as we’d set everything up decorations wise the night before. The only things we hadn’t set up the night before was the floral pedestals and the wedding cake as these were going to be delivered by the suppliers at some point during the morning. The floral pedestals were in the ceremony room and looked fantastic, but the wedding cake hadn’t yet been delivered into the reception room. 

As we felt at a bit of a loss in what exactly to do we took a walk around the venue where we got offered a free glass of champagne we then took back to our room. It was at this point I realised I wasn’t sure what time my sister, parents, our photographer or my hairdresser were going to arrive.

By the time my sister, parents, hairdresser and Dees’ daughter Hollie (who was doing our make-up for us) had arrived, everything went from being calm and seeming like we had forever, to being very hectic and seeming like there wasn’t much time. 

I thought I wanted to have a bustling busy room filled with my hairdresser Katie, photographer, MUA, BMs and my Mum, but actually I found myself getting stressed out by the noise and commotion all those people were creating in the room, especially as I was having my hair done at the time, and having my hair done has always been a source of anxiety for me. 

At one point I strongly encouraged my sister to take Dees’ daughters to go check out the rooms so they could see the decorations before everyone else. Once they had left the room I was able to calm the nerves that had been building inside and it allowed my hairdresser to finish my hair without any distractions. 

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Pink Wedding Venues


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As you all know from my post on 30th September, I have the honour of providing guest blog contributions to the awesome Pink Wedding Venues who supply the LGBT community with dependable wedding planning help and advice. Here is an exert from my most recent contribution… 

Our “Guest Blogger” – Hazel from “IDOONABUDGET” has, very kindly, shared some ideas on what to do regarding your surnames once you’ve “tied the knot” – who’s name do you choose? Do you keep your own surname? Take that of your partner? Have a read below for some great ideas – we LOVE the idea of “Meshing” – sounds like fun trying to make up a name!

Have you thought about what you and your partner are going to do with your surnames upon getting married? 

Among the numerous traditions surrounding marriage one of the big ones is the bride renouncing her last name and taking her husbands. But how does this translate to same-sex weddings? Especially as increasing numbers of heterosexual women are choosing not to take their husbands name and more heterosexual men are opting to take their wives name or double barrel with her. 

What should you do with your last name when you get married?

Even though it may be customary for same sex couples to keep their own surnames, there are many other options available that may be perfect for you. The truth is the same options are available to same sex couples as to heterosexual couples when getting married. Whether you decide to keep your own names, both change or have just one of you change your name, there is no right or wrong, just what is right for you….

To read more click here.

Favourites From The Archives


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IDoOnABudget has been running for 4 years now, although I feel the blog only really started to come into its own in February 2015.

The realisation of how long I have been writing IDoOnABudget has made me think about all the support I have received from all you readers and followers. This blog would be a mere diary if it wasn’t for all of you, so thank you, and I hope you continue to enjoy reading the posts. I have been lucky to meet some amazing wedding industry professionals this year, some of whom have contributed to the blog with their pearls of wisdom & others whose products I loved so much I couldn’t help but share them with you.

For all these reasons and more I’ve shared below some of my favourite posts from across these past 4 years.

December 2011
First Things First

My first ever blog post! This post goes over how you can determine what your wedding budget is when you are first engaged and how you should go about your initial planning if you are on a tight budget. This post really shows not only far the blog has come but also how much I’ve improved as a blogger. 

March 2012
Fantastically Priced Suppliers 

This post was me sharing some wedding suppliers I have used when I was planning a wedding that I thought were not only very budget friendly but also gave superb customer service.

March 2012
CRAFTY WEEKEND


In 2012 my sister and I made 5 button holes, 2 wrist corsages and 1 bouquet using woollen pom poms. This is the biggest wedding DIY I’ve ever undertaken (to date) and couldn’t be more proud of what we achieved.

 

April 2012
DIY Bunting Making

A step-by-step guide to how my sister and I created a lot of bunting from scratch. From creating the triangle template to sewing each triangle onto the line to create the bunting. We even layered lace fabric over normal fabric to create the desired effect. I will be having another go at making bunting in 2016 I hope.

February 2015
Proposal!

The story of how my H2B proposed to me

June 2015
Hen Do Planning

 

The Oxford Hen Party I planned for my colleague andwpid-imag0978.jpg friend. This post tells you all about the items I ordered to make her Hen Do awesome and where I ordered everything from. The first Hen Party I had planned – I really learnt how difficult planning a hen do can be.
I loved planning the Hen Party and really enjoyed sharing the planning with all of you.

 

July 2015
Hen & Stag Party Ideas

Here are my favourite ideas for Hen & Stag party activities. I wonder if any of these appeal to you?

September 2015
Invites for Less

This is one of my favourite blog posts because I teamed up with Rosie at Little Vixen Designs and Suzanne at Paper Tree Design to provide you with loads of hints and tips on how you can have bespoke professionally made wedding stationary while keeping within whatever budget you have set.

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I’d love to know which posts are your favourite, so let me know by commenting, tweeting me or posting onto the Facebook page.